General Discussion

soooo
I think I might be bi, and my family is very religious- so how would I tell them without getting disowned?

help.

@Pheonix404
First off, I want to tell you that whatever happens, you have community of people that care about you and support you. Also... welcome to the lgbt+ community! <3

anyways, this guy might help, unless you already watch his vids. Super useful.
https://www.youtube.com/user/AmandasChronicles

I would also suggest going to other support sites, and really be confident of who you are, and be 100% comfortable with your sexuality before you come out.
Best of luck! <3

@Pheonix404 i mean... if you think it could be risky, i wouldnt tell them. im sorry you'll have to hide a big part of yourself like that, but if you think they would disown you, its better to not risk it for now.

i'd say wait until you have a permanent place to stay. im guessing you know their thoughts on lgbt folks, which is why you have this fear.

stay safe!! theres no shame in staying closeted especially for your well being!!

Whatever you do, don’t do what I did and date the same sex for a year and kinda just drop that ole‘ truthbomb after everyone’s pretty much figured it out. I lucked out with an ok reaction, but idk about anyone else.

Just be yourself, and proceed with caution. Idk your religion, but if it’s Christian, the true Christians will love and accept you the way you are. Any other reaction is simply bigotry.

[size=2][b]Like everybody else will likely tell you, just be cautious, but be yourself! If they disown you they're jerks either way but still. Sometimes it's best to keep that stuff on the lowdown, ask them questions relating to the subject that would give you hints on how they may feel towards it, etc. It really depends on who they are. But there ain't nothing wrong with being closeted for a while. I'm closeted myself. But I understand. You have my support and the support of the rest of the community as well. That's awesome to hear, honestly! And the fact that you wanna let everyone know that's who you are. You're doing great. [emoji=guardian happy size=1] But as somebody who is pan and poly, I understand completely. I haven't even told any of my family yet either, but maybe I will. I know my side of the family loves me to death and would be all right if I told them, but my husband's side of the family is extremely Mormon, and we would probably hear a lot of slack from them if they found out. My husband is pan and poly too, so I really understand, as he's currently struggling over whether or not to tell his family, too.

it depends. stay closeted for as long as you need to to keep yourself safe, at least. i came out as trans too early to my parents and it went so wrong, and now im moving out soon and having to go behind their backs to move in with my boyfriend and transition because i know they would stop supporting me entirely if they knew. they arent religious though so i cant say for certain what the reaction would be.

but definitely dont do it until youre ready, most importantly. i didnt have my thoughts organized which made it a lot harder and worse in the end. but i hope it goes well, theres always people here for you <333

dont feel an obligation to come out! in the end, coming out isnt necessary especially if its dangerous. you can still be yourself and still be happy without announcing it to them. as others have said, id wait until you have somewhere else you can stay that way it doesnt matter if they kick you out or anything. good luck friend! <3

I completely agree with @Lepidolite. Not everyone has to know your sexual orientation. Plus, it's your family and I hope your sexual orientation isn't the only thing that matters to them.
(Oops that sounds harsher than intended)

You only think you might be? Figure it out before you tell them.

It is, after all, entirely possible to be attracted to the same sex but not be interested in a sexual relationship. I wouldn't bring it up until you know for sure, or if you're about to bring a same-sex partner into your life.

That way you won't have irreparably damaged a relationship with your family if it turns out you're never going to have a relationship with somebody of the same sex.

Your family don't really need to know unless it impacts them. My family don't know about me, because it's never been relevant to their lives. I know they'd be fine with it (I have loads of bi and gay relatives and friends) but until I decide I want to bring somebody into my life and, by extension, theirs, there's not much point in bringing it up.

Maybe you feel differently, but be cautious, especially if you're young and/or still questioning.

Well first off you're disrespecting your family by not listening to their values and morals.

Second start thinking about having to move out early because most families will not tolerate you when they already have a certain lifestyle already setup for their home. At the end of the day you need to respect your family who might own that home, they bring money and food into that home and who has raised you from a baby. A lot of teenagers especially never think about this and this is why most of them end up on the streets by the time they're 18, and then they think about, "Oh, but why?" Well because the people who raised you feel highly disrespected and completely thrown out.
Now or you might get lucky and they'll be totally fine with it and it'll just be a subject they'll completely ignore.

I used to be in the same boat, but one day I decided to study what I call, "real psychology."

;)