Hi all! I'm super duper new to FR and I've been loving it so far! I'm slowly but surely breeding new dragons and I look forward to creating some fun ones. I noticed on some dragon sales forums that Exalting dragons after buying them was a HUGE no-go in certain contexts. I was wondering if someone could give me the lowdown on when it is/isn't okay to exalt a dragon, consequences, how much of a big deal it is, and what it means to you guys. It seems to carry some pretty big social implications even now so I thought I would ask you guys, since the forums on exaltation etiquette I saw were pretty old. Thanks!
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Hi all! I'm super duper new to FR and I've been loving it so far! I'm slowly but surely breeding new dragons and I look forward to creating some fun ones. I noticed on some dragon sales forums that Exalting dragons after buying them was a HUGE no-go in certain contexts. I was wondering if someone could give me the lowdown on when it is/isn't okay to exalt a dragon, consequences, how much of a big deal it is, and what it means to you guys. It seems to carry some pretty big social implications even now so I thought I would ask you guys, since the forums on exaltation etiquette I saw were pretty old. Thanks!
Most people don't care if you exalt their dragons, as long as you name them. Some people don't even care if they're named. Oh, I guess I should add some people don't like them being named something super obnoxious, so try to avoid that. If you can't be bothered to think of a name, there's always the random name button, it's a safe bet.
There are a small, but vocal minority who feel differently about their dragons being exalted. I've seen one person who asked people to breed them first before exalting? But most people who are fussy about the fate of their dragons will buy them back from you. For these people, it seems like their policy really depends on the person, so it's best you just look, but if their user profile doesn't say anything about it, you can usually assume it's ok. I've never had any problems C:
There are a small, but vocal minority who feel differently about their dragons being exalted. I've seen one person who asked people to breed them first before exalting? But most people who are fussy about the fate of their dragons will buy them back from you. For these people, it seems like their policy really depends on the person, so it's best you just look, but if their user profile doesn't say anything about it, you can usually assume it's ok. I've never had any problems C:
Most people don't care if you exalt their dragons, as long as you name them. Some people don't even care if they're named. Oh, I guess I should add some people don't like them being named something super obnoxious, so try to avoid that. If you can't be bothered to think of a name, there's always the random name button, it's a safe bet.
There are a small, but vocal minority who feel differently about their dragons being exalted. I've seen one person who asked people to breed them first before exalting? But most people who are fussy about the fate of their dragons will buy them back from you. For these people, it seems like their policy really depends on the person, so it's best you just look, but if their user profile doesn't say anything about it, you can usually assume it's ok. I've never had any problems C:
There are a small, but vocal minority who feel differently about their dragons being exalted. I've seen one person who asked people to breed them first before exalting? But most people who are fussy about the fate of their dragons will buy them back from you. For these people, it seems like their policy really depends on the person, so it's best you just look, but if their user profile doesn't say anything about it, you can usually assume it's ok. I've never had any problems C:
The main thing is that a ton of fodder exalters (like myself) adhere to the policy of "If it's no longer in your lair, you have no control over where it goes." If a dragon is cheap, we snatch it up and it's bound to be exalted within the next week.
Of course, many people in giveaway threads request that you don't exalt a dragon. And, although holding on to the dragon you received is certainly the polite thing to do (since you're respecting the givers' wishes), the giver can't get their panties in a wad if/when you do decide to exalt said dragon.
TLDR; Who you talk to about exalting etiquette will largely vary some person to person. Some people are more sensitive about such a matter while some are physically incapable of giving a flying fish.
Of course, many people in giveaway threads request that you don't exalt a dragon. And, although holding on to the dragon you received is certainly the polite thing to do (since you're respecting the givers' wishes), the giver can't get their panties in a wad if/when you do decide to exalt said dragon.
TLDR; Who you talk to about exalting etiquette will largely vary some person to person. Some people are more sensitive about such a matter while some are physically incapable of giving a flying fish.
The main thing is that a ton of fodder exalters (like myself) adhere to the policy of "If it's no longer in your lair, you have no control over where it goes." If a dragon is cheap, we snatch it up and it's bound to be exalted within the next week.
Of course, many people in giveaway threads request that you don't exalt a dragon. And, although holding on to the dragon you received is certainly the polite thing to do (since you're respecting the givers' wishes), the giver can't get their panties in a wad if/when you do decide to exalt said dragon.
TLDR; Who you talk to about exalting etiquette will largely vary some person to person. Some people are more sensitive about such a matter while some are physically incapable of giving a flying fish.
Of course, many people in giveaway threads request that you don't exalt a dragon. And, although holding on to the dragon you received is certainly the polite thing to do (since you're respecting the givers' wishes), the giver can't get their panties in a wad if/when you do decide to exalt said dragon.
TLDR; Who you talk to about exalting etiquette will largely vary some person to person. Some people are more sensitive about such a matter while some are physically incapable of giving a flying fish.
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Any dragon you own, it's always okay to exalt. Period. Minus good faith exchanges where you're doing something with someone else's dragon. However, if you want to avoid ruffling feathers,
- Don't take dragons from adoption threads and exalt them. It's just kinda rude. It's fine to exalt them after a grace period though. Usually a couple weeks. No one expects you to keep any one dragon forever.
- Try to name before exalting. People don't usually like seeing a bunch "unnamed" on the offspring list.
- Make sure you slap a familiar on any dragons that you're planning to breed, hold, level, etc. for someone else. So you don't accidentally exalt them.
- Don't take dragons from adoption threads and exalt them. It's just kinda rude. It's fine to exalt them after a grace period though. Usually a couple weeks. No one expects you to keep any one dragon forever.
- Try to name before exalting. People don't usually like seeing a bunch "unnamed" on the offspring list.
- Make sure you slap a familiar on any dragons that you're planning to breed, hold, level, etc. for someone else. So you don't accidentally exalt them.
Any dragon you own, it's always okay to exalt. Period. Minus good faith exchanges where you're doing something with someone else's dragon. However, if you want to avoid ruffling feathers,
- Don't take dragons from adoption threads and exalt them. It's just kinda rude. It's fine to exalt them after a grace period though. Usually a couple weeks. No one expects you to keep any one dragon forever.
- Try to name before exalting. People don't usually like seeing a bunch "unnamed" on the offspring list.
- Make sure you slap a familiar on any dragons that you're planning to breed, hold, level, etc. for someone else. So you don't accidentally exalt them.
- Don't take dragons from adoption threads and exalt them. It's just kinda rude. It's fine to exalt them after a grace period though. Usually a couple weeks. No one expects you to keep any one dragon forever.
- Try to name before exalting. People don't usually like seeing a bunch "unnamed" on the offspring list.
- Make sure you slap a familiar on any dragons that you're planning to breed, hold, level, etc. for someone else. So you don't accidentally exalt them.
[quote name="ClovenHoof" date="2020-08-19 22:09:06" ]
Oh, I guess I should add some people don't like them being named something super obnoxious,
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my policy if it's at fodder floor and unnamed they shall be called twinkletoes.
ClovenHoof wrote on 2020-08-19 22:09:06:
Oh, I guess I should add some people don't like them being named something super obnoxious,
From what I've learnt:
When people ask you to not exalt a dragon, it's a request. The FR rules say once you buy a dragon it's yours to do with what you wish. But it'll probably make the person mad, so definitely consider not. Dragons bought from the AH are 100% ok to exalt.
The consequences are that the dragon is fully removed from the game, never to come back, unless you un-exalt. It's not that much of a big deal, people do it quite often for a variety of different reasons, including lair space/dom/profit/whatever.
As for what it means, that differs between each person. I tend to lean towards the official sight lore, that says exalting a dragon is sending it off to serve the elemental deity, its a huge honor and all that. Almost everybody has a slightly different view on it though.
Keep in mind what I've just said is what I've gathered from a bunch of different places, and since I'm kinda new as well I might have got some of it wrong!
When people ask you to not exalt a dragon, it's a request. The FR rules say once you buy a dragon it's yours to do with what you wish. But it'll probably make the person mad, so definitely consider not. Dragons bought from the AH are 100% ok to exalt.
The consequences are that the dragon is fully removed from the game, never to come back, unless you un-exalt. It's not that much of a big deal, people do it quite often for a variety of different reasons, including lair space/dom/profit/whatever.
As for what it means, that differs between each person. I tend to lean towards the official sight lore, that says exalting a dragon is sending it off to serve the elemental deity, its a huge honor and all that. Almost everybody has a slightly different view on it though.
Keep in mind what I've just said is what I've gathered from a bunch of different places, and since I'm kinda new as well I might have got some of it wrong!
From what I've learnt:
When people ask you to not exalt a dragon, it's a request. The FR rules say once you buy a dragon it's yours to do with what you wish. But it'll probably make the person mad, so definitely consider not. Dragons bought from the AH are 100% ok to exalt.
The consequences are that the dragon is fully removed from the game, never to come back, unless you un-exalt. It's not that much of a big deal, people do it quite often for a variety of different reasons, including lair space/dom/profit/whatever.
As for what it means, that differs between each person. I tend to lean towards the official sight lore, that says exalting a dragon is sending it off to serve the elemental deity, its a huge honor and all that. Almost everybody has a slightly different view on it though.
Keep in mind what I've just said is what I've gathered from a bunch of different places, and since I'm kinda new as well I might have got some of it wrong!
When people ask you to not exalt a dragon, it's a request. The FR rules say once you buy a dragon it's yours to do with what you wish. But it'll probably make the person mad, so definitely consider not. Dragons bought from the AH are 100% ok to exalt.
The consequences are that the dragon is fully removed from the game, never to come back, unless you un-exalt. It's not that much of a big deal, people do it quite often for a variety of different reasons, including lair space/dom/profit/whatever.
As for what it means, that differs between each person. I tend to lean towards the official sight lore, that says exalting a dragon is sending it off to serve the elemental deity, its a huge honor and all that. Almost everybody has a slightly different view on it though.
Keep in mind what I've just said is what I've gathered from a bunch of different places, and since I'm kinda new as well I might have got some of it wrong!
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Just so you know; one of the site rules here is that once you own a dragon, no one is allowed to tell you what you can or cannot do with it.
That doesnt mean that there's not a social consequence for some things, like exalting unnamed dragons for instance. Many people also dont like it when you exalt a dragon that was priced above fodder (under 8,000t) immediately after purchase, or to rename fodder you've bought with a 'spammy' name. For example if you were to name all unnamed fodder you get to soup, and you bought a dragon name Dave, proceeded to rename it to soup and then exalt it. Thats just a few I know of.
That doesnt mean that there's not a social consequence for some things, like exalting unnamed dragons for instance. Many people also dont like it when you exalt a dragon that was priced above fodder (under 8,000t) immediately after purchase, or to rename fodder you've bought with a 'spammy' name. For example if you were to name all unnamed fodder you get to soup, and you bought a dragon name Dave, proceeded to rename it to soup and then exalt it. Thats just a few I know of.
Just so you know; one of the site rules here is that once you own a dragon, no one is allowed to tell you what you can or cannot do with it.
That doesnt mean that there's not a social consequence for some things, like exalting unnamed dragons for instance. Many people also dont like it when you exalt a dragon that was priced above fodder (under 8,000t) immediately after purchase, or to rename fodder you've bought with a 'spammy' name. For example if you were to name all unnamed fodder you get to soup, and you bought a dragon name Dave, proceeded to rename it to soup and then exalt it. Thats just a few I know of.
That doesnt mean that there's not a social consequence for some things, like exalting unnamed dragons for instance. Many people also dont like it when you exalt a dragon that was priced above fodder (under 8,000t) immediately after purchase, or to rename fodder you've bought with a 'spammy' name. For example if you were to name all unnamed fodder you get to soup, and you bought a dragon name Dave, proceeded to rename it to soup and then exalt it. Thats just a few I know of.
As long as you don't get free dragons just to exalt or exalt any dragon out of spite, you should be good! While it's true that once a dragon is out of your lair you have no say in what happens to it, stuff like naming a dragon something offensive and then exalting it can be considered harassment.
Other than that, another big etiquette thing is to not exalt anything unnamed, as many people don't like that in their offspring lists.
Other than that, another big etiquette thing is to not exalt anything unnamed, as many people don't like that in their offspring lists.
As long as you don't get free dragons just to exalt or exalt any dragon out of spite, you should be good! While it's true that once a dragon is out of your lair you have no say in what happens to it, stuff like naming a dragon something offensive and then exalting it can be considered harassment.
Other than that, another big etiquette thing is to not exalt anything unnamed, as many people don't like that in their offspring lists.
Other than that, another big etiquette thing is to not exalt anything unnamed, as many people don't like that in their offspring lists.
Its your dragon, do what you want with it.
No one else gets to tell you what to do with your dragon, whether that be keeping or exalting it.
You do you.
No one else gets to tell you what to do with your dragon, whether that be keeping or exalting it.
You do you.
Its your dragon, do what you want with it.
No one else gets to tell you what to do with your dragon, whether that be keeping or exalting it.
You do you.
No one else gets to tell you what to do with your dragon, whether that be keeping or exalting it.
You do you.
SHORT:
Rules say it's a free world - and that's true (with the sole exception of purposefully using hurtful names to aim at the parent holder, or abusing give-away threads* - the more u know). Etiquette usually depends on where you got the dragon from, though. Slap a name on em, please, before you do the exalting. A lot of new people especially forget about how visible it is on off-spring lists to have a bunch of 'Unnamed" dragons.
LONG:
If you adopted it with certain rules/hopes attached, usually the people doing so would rather simply take the dragon back than see it exalted.
Say, free give-aways or raffles to 'Good homes' - good homes =! please don't exalt immediately. As others mentioned, there is nothing wrong with changing your mind later in FR life. Finding a new home is usually totally fine in those cases, though. Other such things are special lineage projects - raptorix' one comes to mind, someone also mentioned it before - They run a free-dragons-for-everyone-thread, because they wish to continue the lineage. So they give out free dragons hoping to buy one of their off-spring from you to continue. after that, you are socially free to do whatever. They are also happy to take the dragon back if you don't want to breed them or do anything with them after all. Sometimes people put "if you grow tired of me please send me back to USERNAME" because they hope the dragon will live (either because of sentimental value, or because they have a rare color combination, or because they are very old etc) - feel free to give a PM a go if you grow tired of them. They usually won't be really upset if you just exalted them, but they'd rather you do not in those cases.
In the same line, special forum events/thread (not so much random 'you get whatever hatches' or mystery dragon ones - cause you have no idea what you are getting), usually would rather the dragon goes to someone who actually keeps them than someone who just exalts them. Think raffles around THE SINGLE DERG (again, random chance means you couldn't purposefully have gotten the dragon just to exalt it/be spiteful). It'd just be the thing that it's been very a very visible dragon to other people who probably would've bought them off of your hands for exalt-price anyhow. I remember a forum thread where you had to compliment a dragon to have a chance to get it. I got it, and eventually didn't think she fit in my lair anymore, so I rehomed her alongside a few other dragons (because she WAS beautiful) - she ended up becoming someone else's birthday dragon!
Did I have to rehome her at that point? Nope. I am happy I did though.
For the auction house etiquette is VERY different. It's not visible, so there is little chance of others wanting to keep the dragon, just for you to visibly immediately exalt them. So grieving is very rare, and usually personal.
Anything at fodder price is expected to become fodder. While certain dragons often end up flipped because you could sell them for more easily (think matchy ungened g1s), or some find perma-dragons there, they are expected to be seen exalted.
More expensive dragons are hoped to stay around longer, but this isn't guaranteed either, as many people buy them for breeding projects. (and some, I hear, to keep color ranges rarer, but that's generally not too profitable to do). Some get exalted immediately (say, after realizing you can't actually use them for a breeding project because they were siblings and you didn't see it at the time!). A lot of people raise an eyebrow when a lot of expensive dragons get exalted immediately, but it's more confusion rather than anything else.
Dragons who only stay at your home temporarily (dragon share, coli lending projects, nest rentals), you obviously shouldn't exalt (or breed, or change genes, or names or anything else, obviously). If someone left their dragon and went inactive for weeks and months, it again becomes really their fault for not picking it up if the dragon ends up exalted. You don't have to hold other dragons forever.
In the end, I feel the userbase has become nicer on people exalting? I feel, anyhow.
Do whatever you like to do. If you can't remember how or where you got your dragon from, you prolly have had it long enough etiquette rules no longer apply. If you got a dragon under a special condition and want it gone, feel free to ask. That way you can feel extra good about your decision. At the end of the day though, your dergs are your dergs, and people know that too, so feel free to treat them as such. Some people - like me - enjoy rehoming old dragons of theirs. Some don't! So if you don't, it's cool to skip that step and just exalt away.
Rules say it's a free world - and that's true (with the sole exception of purposefully using hurtful names to aim at the parent holder, or abusing give-away threads* - the more u know). Etiquette usually depends on where you got the dragon from, though. Slap a name on em, please, before you do the exalting. A lot of new people especially forget about how visible it is on off-spring lists to have a bunch of 'Unnamed" dragons.
LONG:
If you adopted it with certain rules/hopes attached, usually the people doing so would rather simply take the dragon back than see it exalted.
Say, free give-aways or raffles to 'Good homes' - good homes =! please don't exalt immediately. As others mentioned, there is nothing wrong with changing your mind later in FR life. Finding a new home is usually totally fine in those cases, though. Other such things are special lineage projects - raptorix' one comes to mind, someone also mentioned it before - They run a free-dragons-for-everyone-thread, because they wish to continue the lineage. So they give out free dragons hoping to buy one of their off-spring from you to continue. after that, you are socially free to do whatever. They are also happy to take the dragon back if you don't want to breed them or do anything with them after all. Sometimes people put "if you grow tired of me please send me back to USERNAME" because they hope the dragon will live (either because of sentimental value, or because they have a rare color combination, or because they are very old etc) - feel free to give a PM a go if you grow tired of them. They usually won't be really upset if you just exalted them, but they'd rather you do not in those cases.
In the same line, special forum events/thread (not so much random 'you get whatever hatches' or mystery dragon ones - cause you have no idea what you are getting), usually would rather the dragon goes to someone who actually keeps them than someone who just exalts them. Think raffles around THE SINGLE DERG (again, random chance means you couldn't purposefully have gotten the dragon just to exalt it/be spiteful). It'd just be the thing that it's been very a very visible dragon to other people who probably would've bought them off of your hands for exalt-price anyhow. I remember a forum thread where you had to compliment a dragon to have a chance to get it. I got it, and eventually didn't think she fit in my lair anymore, so I rehomed her alongside a few other dragons (because she WAS beautiful) - she ended up becoming someone else's birthday dragon!
Did I have to rehome her at that point? Nope. I am happy I did though.
For the auction house etiquette is VERY different. It's not visible, so there is little chance of others wanting to keep the dragon, just for you to visibly immediately exalt them. So grieving is very rare, and usually personal.
Anything at fodder price is expected to become fodder. While certain dragons often end up flipped because you could sell them for more easily (think matchy ungened g1s), or some find perma-dragons there, they are expected to be seen exalted.
More expensive dragons are hoped to stay around longer, but this isn't guaranteed either, as many people buy them for breeding projects. (and some, I hear, to keep color ranges rarer, but that's generally not too profitable to do). Some get exalted immediately (say, after realizing you can't actually use them for a breeding project because they were siblings and you didn't see it at the time!). A lot of people raise an eyebrow when a lot of expensive dragons get exalted immediately, but it's more confusion rather than anything else.
Dragons who only stay at your home temporarily (dragon share, coli lending projects, nest rentals), you obviously shouldn't exalt (or breed, or change genes, or names or anything else, obviously). If someone left their dragon and went inactive for weeks and months, it again becomes really their fault for not picking it up if the dragon ends up exalted. You don't have to hold other dragons forever.
In the end, I feel the userbase has become nicer on people exalting? I feel, anyhow.
Do whatever you like to do. If you can't remember how or where you got your dragon from, you prolly have had it long enough etiquette rules no longer apply. If you got a dragon under a special condition and want it gone, feel free to ask. That way you can feel extra good about your decision. At the end of the day though, your dergs are your dergs, and people know that too, so feel free to treat them as such. Some people - like me - enjoy rehoming old dragons of theirs. Some don't! So if you don't, it's cool to skip that step and just exalt away.
SHORT:
Rules say it's a free world - and that's true (with the sole exception of purposefully using hurtful names to aim at the parent holder, or abusing give-away threads* - the more u know). Etiquette usually depends on where you got the dragon from, though. Slap a name on em, please, before you do the exalting. A lot of new people especially forget about how visible it is on off-spring lists to have a bunch of 'Unnamed" dragons.
LONG:
If you adopted it with certain rules/hopes attached, usually the people doing so would rather simply take the dragon back than see it exalted.
Say, free give-aways or raffles to 'Good homes' - good homes =! please don't exalt immediately. As others mentioned, there is nothing wrong with changing your mind later in FR life. Finding a new home is usually totally fine in those cases, though. Other such things are special lineage projects - raptorix' one comes to mind, someone also mentioned it before - They run a free-dragons-for-everyone-thread, because they wish to continue the lineage. So they give out free dragons hoping to buy one of their off-spring from you to continue. after that, you are socially free to do whatever. They are also happy to take the dragon back if you don't want to breed them or do anything with them after all. Sometimes people put "if you grow tired of me please send me back to USERNAME" because they hope the dragon will live (either because of sentimental value, or because they have a rare color combination, or because they are very old etc) - feel free to give a PM a go if you grow tired of them. They usually won't be really upset if you just exalted them, but they'd rather you do not in those cases.
In the same line, special forum events/thread (not so much random 'you get whatever hatches' or mystery dragon ones - cause you have no idea what you are getting), usually would rather the dragon goes to someone who actually keeps them than someone who just exalts them. Think raffles around THE SINGLE DERG (again, random chance means you couldn't purposefully have gotten the dragon just to exalt it/be spiteful). It'd just be the thing that it's been very a very visible dragon to other people who probably would've bought them off of your hands for exalt-price anyhow. I remember a forum thread where you had to compliment a dragon to have a chance to get it. I got it, and eventually didn't think she fit in my lair anymore, so I rehomed her alongside a few other dragons (because she WAS beautiful) - she ended up becoming someone else's birthday dragon!
Did I have to rehome her at that point? Nope. I am happy I did though.
For the auction house etiquette is VERY different. It's not visible, so there is little chance of others wanting to keep the dragon, just for you to visibly immediately exalt them. So grieving is very rare, and usually personal.
Anything at fodder price is expected to become fodder. While certain dragons often end up flipped because you could sell them for more easily (think matchy ungened g1s), or some find perma-dragons there, they are expected to be seen exalted.
More expensive dragons are hoped to stay around longer, but this isn't guaranteed either, as many people buy them for breeding projects. (and some, I hear, to keep color ranges rarer, but that's generally not too profitable to do). Some get exalted immediately (say, after realizing you can't actually use them for a breeding project because they were siblings and you didn't see it at the time!). A lot of people raise an eyebrow when a lot of expensive dragons get exalted immediately, but it's more confusion rather than anything else.
Dragons who only stay at your home temporarily (dragon share, coli lending projects, nest rentals), you obviously shouldn't exalt (or breed, or change genes, or names or anything else, obviously). If someone left their dragon and went inactive for weeks and months, it again becomes really their fault for not picking it up if the dragon ends up exalted. You don't have to hold other dragons forever.
In the end, I feel the userbase has become nicer on people exalting? I feel, anyhow.
Do whatever you like to do. If you can't remember how or where you got your dragon from, you prolly have had it long enough etiquette rules no longer apply. If you got a dragon under a special condition and want it gone, feel free to ask. That way you can feel extra good about your decision. At the end of the day though, your dergs are your dergs, and people know that too, so feel free to treat them as such. Some people - like me - enjoy rehoming old dragons of theirs. Some don't! So if you don't, it's cool to skip that step and just exalt away.
Rules say it's a free world - and that's true (with the sole exception of purposefully using hurtful names to aim at the parent holder, or abusing give-away threads* - the more u know). Etiquette usually depends on where you got the dragon from, though. Slap a name on em, please, before you do the exalting. A lot of new people especially forget about how visible it is on off-spring lists to have a bunch of 'Unnamed" dragons.
LONG:
If you adopted it with certain rules/hopes attached, usually the people doing so would rather simply take the dragon back than see it exalted.
Say, free give-aways or raffles to 'Good homes' - good homes =! please don't exalt immediately. As others mentioned, there is nothing wrong with changing your mind later in FR life. Finding a new home is usually totally fine in those cases, though. Other such things are special lineage projects - raptorix' one comes to mind, someone also mentioned it before - They run a free-dragons-for-everyone-thread, because they wish to continue the lineage. So they give out free dragons hoping to buy one of their off-spring from you to continue. after that, you are socially free to do whatever. They are also happy to take the dragon back if you don't want to breed them or do anything with them after all. Sometimes people put "if you grow tired of me please send me back to USERNAME" because they hope the dragon will live (either because of sentimental value, or because they have a rare color combination, or because they are very old etc) - feel free to give a PM a go if you grow tired of them. They usually won't be really upset if you just exalted them, but they'd rather you do not in those cases.
In the same line, special forum events/thread (not so much random 'you get whatever hatches' or mystery dragon ones - cause you have no idea what you are getting), usually would rather the dragon goes to someone who actually keeps them than someone who just exalts them. Think raffles around THE SINGLE DERG (again, random chance means you couldn't purposefully have gotten the dragon just to exalt it/be spiteful). It'd just be the thing that it's been very a very visible dragon to other people who probably would've bought them off of your hands for exalt-price anyhow. I remember a forum thread where you had to compliment a dragon to have a chance to get it. I got it, and eventually didn't think she fit in my lair anymore, so I rehomed her alongside a few other dragons (because she WAS beautiful) - she ended up becoming someone else's birthday dragon!
Did I have to rehome her at that point? Nope. I am happy I did though.
For the auction house etiquette is VERY different. It's not visible, so there is little chance of others wanting to keep the dragon, just for you to visibly immediately exalt them. So grieving is very rare, and usually personal.
Anything at fodder price is expected to become fodder. While certain dragons often end up flipped because you could sell them for more easily (think matchy ungened g1s), or some find perma-dragons there, they are expected to be seen exalted.
More expensive dragons are hoped to stay around longer, but this isn't guaranteed either, as many people buy them for breeding projects. (and some, I hear, to keep color ranges rarer, but that's generally not too profitable to do). Some get exalted immediately (say, after realizing you can't actually use them for a breeding project because they were siblings and you didn't see it at the time!). A lot of people raise an eyebrow when a lot of expensive dragons get exalted immediately, but it's more confusion rather than anything else.
Dragons who only stay at your home temporarily (dragon share, coli lending projects, nest rentals), you obviously shouldn't exalt (or breed, or change genes, or names or anything else, obviously). If someone left their dragon and went inactive for weeks and months, it again becomes really their fault for not picking it up if the dragon ends up exalted. You don't have to hold other dragons forever.
In the end, I feel the userbase has become nicer on people exalting? I feel, anyhow.
Do whatever you like to do. If you can't remember how or where you got your dragon from, you prolly have had it long enough etiquette rules no longer apply. If you got a dragon under a special condition and want it gone, feel free to ask. That way you can feel extra good about your decision. At the end of the day though, your dergs are your dergs, and people know that too, so feel free to treat them as such. Some people - like me - enjoy rehoming old dragons of theirs. Some don't! So if you don't, it's cool to skip that step and just exalt away.
   
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