It's burnout. 100% burnout. I came back to this site after a huge hiatus (bogsneaks being added is what I last remember) and got super addicted. I started doing everything! I started a breeding project, I got involved with my Flight's activities, I grinded the coli and my cauldron, made money, started work on an adoptable... and I participated in my first ever dom push. I felt good! Then I needed a week to recharge.
I run out of spoons (mental energy) really fast. Dom pushes take a lot out of me. I was recharging so I'd have the energy to grind out TCC- but then oh! Ice is having a push all of a sudden! I kept hearing "Remember we're saving up for WvE and also IvS so don't go overboard" and also "Don't get lazy with exalting KEEP PUSHING" and I'm running low on treasure, can barely afford fodder, and all I want is to get all the festival stuff...
I felt terrible, but I contributed to the push anyway. I had to, y'know? I already said to myself that I wanted to partake in dom this time around. Everyone else was working so hard to exalt dragons, if I slacked off I'd let everyone down!
Now the event is over. My treasure has been suffocating below 50kt for so long. And WvE has begun. It's supposed to be exciting!! Battles happen so rarely!! My first ever battle!!
But... I'm tired. I'm so tired.
The raffles are cool. I'd like to get some tickets. I don't have any fodder, I spent them all on the two pushes. Fodder floor will skyrocket, so I'd better get started now, right? I'm broke. I can afford about 4 dragons. I won't make much of a profit, looking at the rates of the receivers. I'd be lucky if I could get 100 tickets in a day.
It's been one day and more than a dozen people in each raffle have ticket counts in the tens of thousands.
Ok.
So there's no chance of me ever winning anything. No chance of me making any money back, because I have none to invest.
I'm useless. Everyone else in Ice is working hard, "I have 250 dragons saved up for this," "just sent 10k levels over for 1t," "Keep sending dragons everybody!" And then there's me, dead weight.
This isn't fun. I feel ashamed that I can't live up to these standards. I feel guilty that everyone else is working harder because I can't.
I'm sorry I'm letting everyone down, in Water, Earth, and Ice.
It's burnout. 100% burnout. I came back to this site after a huge hiatus (bogsneaks being added is what I last remember) and got super addicted. I started doing everything! I started a breeding project, I got involved with my Flight's activities, I grinded the coli and my cauldron, made money, started work on an adoptable... and I participated in my first ever dom push. I felt good! Then I needed a week to recharge.
I run out of spoons (mental energy) really fast. Dom pushes take a lot out of me. I was recharging so I'd have the energy to grind out TCC- but then oh! Ice is having a push all of a sudden! I kept hearing "Remember we're saving up for WvE and also IvS so don't go overboard" and also "Don't get lazy with exalting KEEP PUSHING" and I'm running low on treasure, can barely afford fodder, and all I want is to get all the festival stuff...
I felt terrible, but I contributed to the push anyway. I had to, y'know? I already said to myself that I wanted to partake in dom this time around. Everyone else was working so hard to exalt dragons, if I slacked off I'd let everyone down!
Now the event is over. My treasure has been suffocating below 50kt for so long. And WvE has begun. It's supposed to be exciting!! Battles happen so rarely!! My first ever battle!!
But... I'm tired. I'm so tired.
The raffles are cool. I'd like to get some tickets. I don't have any fodder, I spent them all on the two pushes. Fodder floor will skyrocket, so I'd better get started now, right? I'm broke. I can afford about 4 dragons. I won't make much of a profit, looking at the rates of the receivers. I'd be lucky if I could get 100 tickets in a day.
It's been one day and more than a dozen people in each raffle have ticket counts in the tens of thousands.
Ok.
So there's no chance of me ever winning anything. No chance of me making any money back, because I have none to invest.
I'm useless. Everyone else in Ice is working hard, "I have 250 dragons saved up for this," "just sent 10k levels over for 1t," "Keep sending dragons everybody!" And then there's me, dead weight.
This isn't fun. I feel ashamed that I can't live up to these standards. I feel guilty that everyone else is working harder because I can't.
I'm sorry I'm letting everyone down, in Water, Earth, and Ice.
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RosaTheRad I would happily do some free leveling to level 10 if you get fodder or get your a pair of ready to breed fodder parents from the ah
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RosaTheRad I would happily do some free leveling to level 10 if you get fodder or get your a pair of ready to breed fodder parents from the ah
dude, take some good care of yourself.
dom isn't everything, i know that as someone who's more casual and cares more about dressing my dragons and pretty dragons im mostly staying out of this
you don't need to buy dragons, just give yourself a mental break (as best you can) and chill out a little
as someone with depression i understand the feeling of wanting to try hard but not having the energy to do anything
you're not useless, you're someone who's tired, it's okay to take care of yourself, it's okay to take a break, it's okay to feel bad, it's okay to not feel okay
i gather it's likely you're struggling with more with dom, i in no way know you, but i know how thought spirals like these can lead to making everything else feel the same and it hurts
you exhausted yourself, take time to recharge and drink some water, hell, get yourself a snack or something, just take as best care as you're able to
if this is stressing you out so much maybe just ignore the dom watch in general (i know, easier said than done), maybe take a little break from the site until you feel better for a bit?
dude, take some good care of yourself.
dom isn't everything, i know that as someone who's more casual and cares more about dressing my dragons and pretty dragons im mostly staying out of this
you don't need to buy dragons, just give yourself a mental break (as best you can) and chill out a little
as someone with depression i understand the feeling of wanting to try hard but not having the energy to do anything
you're not useless, you're someone who's tired, it's okay to take care of yourself, it's okay to take a break, it's okay to feel bad, it's okay to not feel okay
i gather it's likely you're struggling with more with dom, i in no way know you, but i know how thought spirals like these can lead to making everything else feel the same and it hurts
you exhausted yourself, take time to recharge and drink some water, hell, get yourself a snack or something, just take as best care as you're able to
if this is stressing you out so much maybe just ignore the dom watch in general (i know, easier said than done), maybe take a little break from the site until you feel better for a bit?
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Take care of yourself! A game is no fun if you're pushing yourself beyond what you can handle. Trust me, you aren't letting anyone down by prioritizing yourself over pixel dragons [emoji=familiar heart size=1] Please get some rest!
Take care of yourself! A game is no fun if you're pushing yourself beyond what you can handle. Trust me, you aren't letting anyone down by prioritizing yourself over pixel dragons
Please get some rest!
Hey.
It's okay.
It's completely, 100% okay.
You're not letting anyone down.
Not everyone contributes to dom. I would even go as far as to say that most people probably don't contribute to dom more then a little, for every die hard player that sinks days into coli grinding there are a lot of casual players who flip and handful of fodder and move on with their lives. I know I'm not doing anything but selling the fodder I've been saving for the next time prices rise significantly, and I don't feel even a little bit guilty about that. I'm not in water or ice, and even if I was if I was out of spoons I would stop.
This is a game. If you're not having fun you should stop, step back, and ask yourself why. If a game is making you feel guilty that you're not throwing enough pixel dragons into the volcano, or whatever you call it in flights that aren't fire, that's a bad sign. This isn't a job! It should be fun! There's a lot of people playing, and many of them are very excited to battle. No random person is needed. No one is counting on any specific casual player. If you can contribute that's great! But if you can't, for any reason including you just don't want to, the battle will continue regardless. It's okay.
Hey.
It's okay.
It's completely, 100% okay.
You're not letting anyone down.
Not everyone contributes to dom. I would even go as far as to say that most people probably don't contribute to dom more then a little, for every die hard player that sinks days into coli grinding there are a lot of casual players who flip and handful of fodder and move on with their lives. I know I'm not doing anything but selling the fodder I've been saving for the next time prices rise significantly, and I don't feel even a little bit guilty about that. I'm not in water or ice, and even if I was if I was out of spoons I would stop.
This is a game. If you're not having fun you should stop, step back, and ask yourself why. If a game is making you feel guilty that you're not throwing enough pixel dragons into the volcano, or whatever you call it in flights that aren't fire, that's a bad sign. This isn't a job! It should be fun! There's a lot of people playing, and many of them are very excited to battle. No random person is needed. No one is counting on any specific casual player. If you can contribute that's great! But if you can't, for any reason including you just don't want to, the battle will continue regardless. It's okay.
Dom isn't everything. So what if you're not contributing, especially after what you have? Maybe it's different because you're invested but I'm perfectly fine being completely useless in Wind dom and only being in dom at all to line my pockets. I'm sure it goes for quite a few people too; taking a more casual approach can be less tiring. Seriously, stop pushing yourself, that's not good for your health. You are free and should feel free to take a break, because you deserve it.
Dom isn't everything. So what if you're not contributing, especially after what you have? Maybe it's different because you're invested but I'm perfectly fine being completely useless in Wind dom and only being in dom at all to line my pockets. I'm sure it goes for quite a few people too; taking a more casual approach can be less tiring. Seriously, stop pushing yourself, that's not good for your health. You are free and should feel free to take a break, because you deserve it.
One day, will these too become but distant memories?
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Yes, in the blink of an eye.
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AltMixie I really,
really needed to hear that. Thank you.
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AltMixie I really,
really needed to hear that. Thank you.
Your first priority is to take care of yourself. Flight Rising is not worth compromising your mental health for. If you stop having fun by doing what you're doing, it's a good sign that your body and mind are giving you an opportunity to reflect on how and why you participate in recreation.
I've done this with video gaming in the past; I've played well beyond what was healthy for me. When I took the time to step back, journal about how I was feeling and took time to check-in with myself, it helped me recover.
To me, it sounds like you are playing out of a sense of obligation and from a fear of missing out. I want to gently and compassionately remind you that it's not a requirement that you participate in dominance pushes and play more intensively on-site to be considered an "active" user. Casual players are still active, too! What's important is striking a healthy work-play balance.
I'd say that the best way that you can support Ice in their Dominance push is to recognize your core values and boundaries so that you don't melt from all of the heat and pressure you're feeling!
If you ever want to chat within healthy boundaries, feel free to send me a friend request and/or a PM!
Your first priority is to take care of yourself. Flight Rising is not worth compromising your mental health for. If you stop having fun by doing what you're doing, it's a good sign that your body and mind are giving you an opportunity to reflect on how and why you participate in recreation.
I've done this with video gaming in the past; I've played well beyond what was healthy for me. When I took the time to step back, journal about how I was feeling and took time to check-in with myself, it helped me recover.
To me, it sounds like you are playing out of a sense of obligation and from a fear of missing out. I want to gently and compassionately remind you that it's not a requirement that you participate in dominance pushes and play more intensively on-site to be considered an "active" user. Casual players are still active, too! What's important is striking a healthy work-play balance.
I'd say that the best way that you can support Ice in their Dominance push is to recognize your core values and boundaries so that you don't melt from all of the heat and pressure you're feeling!
If you ever want to chat within healthy boundaries, feel free to send me a friend request and/or a PM!
i promise you aren't letting anyone down. i promise you're not useless. contributing to dom at all is a massive help in itself- and you most certainly did! i'm sure the folks in the ice dom team appreciate your support as much as anyone else's, and with everyone's combined efforts ice pulled it off! you contributed to a great cause and you should be proud of yourself for that :D
on the flipside- dom is really draining. please don't feel bad about WvE, it's a colossal task to take up, especially with the fodder floor rising like you said. all of those players that have sent in 10k levels have been preparing weeks in advance with hundreds of hibden slots, and not everyone can do that. heck, i'm not super prepared either.
nobody should ever put a game over their mental health, period. many players do take breaks because of burnout- myself included. if you think it's a good idea, i encourage you to take all the time off you need to recuperate, and we will welcome you back with open arms <3
if you still plan on sticking around for dom, i can send over some treasure and a handful of fodder dragons! i'm more than happy to help out a fellow player ^^
i promise you aren't letting anyone down. i promise you're not useless. contributing to dom at all is a massive help in itself- and you most certainly did! i'm sure the folks in the ice dom team appreciate your support as much as anyone else's, and with everyone's combined efforts ice pulled it off! you contributed to a great cause and you should be proud of yourself for that :D
on the flipside- dom is really draining. please don't feel bad about WvE, it's a colossal task to take up, especially with the fodder floor rising like you said. all of those players that have sent in 10k levels have been preparing weeks in advance with hundreds of hibden slots, and not everyone can do that. heck, i'm not super prepared either.
nobody should ever put a game over their mental health, period. many players do take breaks because of burnout- myself included. if you think it's a good idea, i encourage you to take all the time off you need to recuperate, and we will welcome you back with open arms <3
if you still plan on sticking around for dom, i can send over some treasure and a handful of fodder dragons! i'm more than happy to help out a fellow player ^^
Take care of yourself! You don’t have to push hard, you don’t have to participate in every battle or push either! It sounds like you’re over extending yourself right into burn out. Take it easy, relax, have fun! It’s okay not to be a dom powerhouse! (To be honest, the ones pushing real big tend to have deep pockets and that takes time and strategy to build! They didn’t start off exalting at a loss!)
Please rest, recharge, and don’t beat yourself up!!
Take care of yourself! You don’t have to push hard, you don’t have to participate in every battle or push either! It sounds like you’re over extending yourself right into burn out. Take it easy, relax, have fun! It’s okay not to be a dom powerhouse! (To be honest, the ones pushing real big tend to have deep pockets and that takes time and strategy to build! They didn’t start off exalting at a loss!)
Please rest, recharge, and don’t beat yourself up!!