so feel free to not read unless you also want to vent or have advice or something.
I really hate that growing up, you're told you can do anything, and be anything you want to be. At least that's what I've always been told. Maybe it's because I was kind of smart when I was younger, and now it just feels like I'm incapable of living up to everyone's expectations. And even if I do well enough (which is very rarely) I just feel ******. It's like there's no escaping the monotony of everything. I'm not sure if college is the right move for me, but at the same time I don't know if there's anything else I can do. I just want to get away from it all.
Technically I did; CPS was closed down for two days and we just got off of break, but in a way it's just making everything worse. Having the time off makes me realize just how much I hate school and everything. I just. Want it to stop. Or else be a little more diverse. Just something to make everything seem different.
I'm logging off now. Probably going to sleep and try to calm down. I just needed to vent. If this is against the rules then just take it down, I don't care. I'll probably delete it when I wake up.
so feel free to not read unless you also want to vent or have advice or something.
I really hate that growing up, you're told you can do anything, and be anything you want to be. At least that's what I've always been told. Maybe it's because I was kind of smart when I was younger, and now it just feels like I'm incapable of living up to everyone's expectations. And even if I do well enough (which is very rarely) I just feel ******. It's like there's no escaping the monotony of everything. I'm not sure if college is the right move for me, but at the same time I don't know if there's anything else I can do. I just want to get away from it all.
Technically I did; CPS was closed down for two days and we just got off of break, but in a way it's just making everything worse. Having the time off makes me realize just how much I hate school and everything. I just. Want it to stop. Or else be a little more diverse. Just something to make everything seem different.
I'm logging off now. Probably going to sleep and try to calm down. I just needed to vent. If this is against the rules then just take it down, I don't care. I'll probably delete it when I wake up.
Hey dude, I'm really sorry that you're at a point were you're feeling like that. I see where you're coming from. When I was little I did well in school and thought I was super smart but I'm at a point where I'm average and I hate myself and my anti-depressants only are increasing, but most of all I hate that I feel that way. I'm currently in highschool and a year behind all of my friends. So all I feel is dread for next year and the future and I just want to skip forward like 5 years, because it has to better by then right!? I do think that venting helps, 100%. For any advice? Tell someone that you feel horrible, it feels safer to keep it inside and not let anyone know, but if you can find someone you trust and won't freak out, talk to them. If you don't have someone then get a therapist, there is no shame in that! But when you talk to someone it helps, really. You can push the thoughts out, maybe even slow down or stop a downward spiral. It can be really hard, but I think its worth it!
Hey dude, I'm really sorry that you're at a point were you're feeling like that. I see where you're coming from. When I was little I did well in school and thought I was super smart but I'm at a point where I'm average and I hate myself and my anti-depressants only are increasing, but most of all I hate that I feel that way. I'm currently in highschool and a year behind all of my friends. So all I feel is dread for next year and the future and I just want to skip forward like 5 years, because it has to better by then right!? I do think that venting helps, 100%. For any advice? Tell someone that you feel horrible, it feels safer to keep it inside and not let anyone know, but if you can find someone you trust and won't freak out, talk to them. If you don't have someone then get a therapist, there is no shame in that! But when you talk to someone it helps, really. You can push the thoughts out, maybe even slow down or stop a downward spiral. It can be really hard, but I think its worth it!
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I know how this feels. I often feel the same way-like life is monotonous and that life is just one long endless blank stretch and I'm not sure what I want. I'm a bit tired at the moment, but I hope things do get better for you. Maybe try finding new places to visit or try picking up an old hobby again-those things can definitely help. Heck, take up knitting if you think it'll make your life better. When life is like that, it's a good idea to step back and think about what you want and then try to spice up your life so it's not so dull. I hope it gets better son.
I know how this feels. I often feel the same way-like life is monotonous and that life is just one long endless blank stretch and I'm not sure what I want. I'm a bit tired at the moment, but I hope things do get better for you. Maybe try finding new places to visit or try picking up an old hobby again-those things can definitely help. Heck, take up knitting if you think it'll make your life better. When life is like that, it's a good idea to step back and think about what you want and then try to spice up your life so it's not so dull. I hope it gets better son.
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I'm sorry. I was in and out of that stage a ton when I was younger. I had depression as a kid from years of bullying that was only really made better when I moved away to college. And then I was in college for seven years, and every year except pretty much that last year was devoted to a career that I only chose because my parents wanted me to and I had no better idea that would immediately lead to a stable job with a stable income. And let me tell you, I was miserable. There were many, many nights I cried myself to sleep.
But I managed to find friends through many (fun) jobs I held on campus, and then I reached out to my local community and found more friends through cosplay clubs. I started to recognize my strengths and weaknesses and played to them. And I started taking a lot of risks, first small and then some pretty big ones, and it's all been worth it in the end, even those six-ish years of living part of my life to someone else's standards. I'm now a year out of college and actually really happy. But I've also had a very lucky life.
Everyone handles situations and feelings like this differently, so I don't really have any advice except to know that you aren't alone, and that there are definitely ways to move your life along to where you need to be, even if you can't see it right now. Heck, I worked for years for a medical degree, and now I'm happily working in the writing field, one of my passions. So chin up. Your feelings are always valid, but your life won't be like this forever if you don't let it. :)
I'm sorry. I was in and out of that stage a ton when I was younger. I had depression as a kid from years of bullying that was only really made better when I moved away to college. And then I was in college for seven years, and every year except pretty much that last year was devoted to a career that I only chose because my parents wanted me to and I had no better idea that would immediately lead to a stable job with a stable income. And let me tell you, I was miserable. There were many, many nights I cried myself to sleep.
But I managed to find friends through many (fun) jobs I held on campus, and then I reached out to my local community and found more friends through cosplay clubs. I started to recognize my strengths and weaknesses and played to them. And I started taking a lot of risks, first small and then some pretty big ones, and it's all been worth it in the end, even those six-ish years of living part of my life to someone else's standards. I'm now a year out of college and actually really happy. But I've also had a very lucky life.
Everyone handles situations and feelings like this differently, so I don't really have any advice except to know that you aren't alone, and that there are definitely ways to move your life along to where you need to be, even if you can't see it right now. Heck, I worked for years for a medical degree, and now I'm happily working in the writing field, one of my passions. So chin up. Your feelings are always valid, but your life won't be like this forever if you don't let it. :)
I know how you're feeling. It's very difficult to cope with the limitations of adulthood and the monotony of daily life. I suffer from a lot of anxiety and depression, I have for a really long time, and it's a struggle to try and drag yourself along and keep it together. I'm not sure if this will help you any, but maybe you can find something that will help from what I've done to help myself.
First of all I decided I needed to have something I'm responsible for. I had a fish for a while and then I bought plants. Just knowing that they depended on me to take care of them motivated me to at least get up and do what I needed to do for them. You might feel detached from reality right now, like what you do in mindless and pointless, so interacting with dependent living things kind of helps you see you affect the world around you.
I try to find the good things, at least after the fact. In the moment it's still very difficult for me, but at the end of the day I make a little list. I write down some good things that happened, just dumb stuff that I liked. You have to write it down because seeing it in front of you makes those moments more important. This one is kind of cliche, but it's helped me.
And then I just make plans. Goals are too daunting for me still, so I just call them plans. Plans to go for a walk or to do a drawing. When I do them, I feel like I was productive. I've been on break since the 16th and I don't go back to class until the 20th, so having nothing to do makes me feel tired and irritated. I make work for myself and it helps pass time.
But mostly it's okay to feel this way. It's okay to doubt going to college, you have to make a decision that's right for you. And it's okay to feel let down with the world because it kind of sucks sometimes. All you can do is try to make the best of it and it's really hard at first, but you'll get the swing of it eventually. I hope you have a better day soon.
I know how you're feeling. It's very difficult to cope with the limitations of adulthood and the monotony of daily life. I suffer from a lot of anxiety and depression, I have for a really long time, and it's a struggle to try and drag yourself along and keep it together. I'm not sure if this will help you any, but maybe you can find something that will help from what I've done to help myself.
First of all I decided I needed to have something I'm responsible for. I had a fish for a while and then I bought plants. Just knowing that they depended on me to take care of them motivated me to at least get up and do what I needed to do for them. You might feel detached from reality right now, like what you do in mindless and pointless, so interacting with dependent living things kind of helps you see you affect the world around you.
I try to find the good things, at least after the fact. In the moment it's still very difficult for me, but at the end of the day I make a little list. I write down some good things that happened, just dumb stuff that I liked. You have to write it down because seeing it in front of you makes those moments more important. This one is kind of cliche, but it's helped me.
And then I just make plans. Goals are too daunting for me still, so I just call them plans. Plans to go for a walk or to do a drawing. When I do them, I feel like I was productive. I've been on break since the 16th and I don't go back to class until the 20th, so having nothing to do makes me feel tired and irritated. I make work for myself and it helps pass time.
But mostly it's okay to feel this way. It's okay to doubt going to college, you have to make a decision that's right for you. And it's okay to feel let down with the world because it kind of sucks sometimes. All you can do is try to make the best of it and it's really hard at first, but you'll get the swing of it eventually. I hope you have a better day soon.
You know, I never thought I'd be saying any of this on FR, but here goes.
First, I can't hear somebody in pain and not stop to say something. If you need to vent, then do it. Here is just fine.
College can be a very difficult prospect--so many choices, and if nothing grabs your interest and holds it, what do you do? You know, I changed my major at least 6 times before I finally found what I wanted to do. And sometimes the jobs you have to work until you find what you want to do can be absolutely mind-numbing. I remember waking up some days thinking that if I had to do this job (whatever job-simply-for-money that was) for the rest of my life-and life can seem horrifyingly long at those times- I would go absolutely insane!!
That will get better later! And what was said before about therapy is true--there is NO shame in it, and can, quite literally, be a lifesaver! Hey, I've been in therapy for 15+ years and I don't know what I would've done without my therapist.
If not a therapist, do talk to someone, though. Keeping things bottled up is never good--they will blow, and when it happens it can be absolutely devastating! Talk to family and/or friends. If you can't do that, or don't want to, there appear to be several people right here who care & are more than willing to listen & try to help, if possible--me included!
I'll say right now-I have no specific answers and there really are none. It will take time to get past this. To find some things that spark your interest--grab your attention and hold it--make you happy to get up in the morning so you can do more of those things, whatever they may be. Finding them can be a process of trial-and- error. Start with some small things--you'd be amazed at how one small, seemingly insignificant thing , can potentially change your life! You're on FR--do the dragons capture your attention? Do you have with this site? Yes--then grab onto that and hold on. That's your first small baby step. Then another day-probably when you least suspect it-you'll find something else-whether by accident, or because you decided to try-I don't know-creating a mixed-media mosaic (yeah, that's a real thing and it's fun) because some crazy person mentioned it and you thought, "What the heck--I have nothing else to do right now."
Anyway, it won't happen overnight, but one day-if you try for some small, baby steps while staring in the face of the rest of your life-I promise you-one day you will feel better. And, you don't need to live up to anyone else's expectations except your own--it is your life.
Now, I didn't think I would do this either, but here goes. I need to vent and no one even has to read it--I'm hoping it will just make me feel better somehow.
I had some of these same issues when I was younger, but the part of me that can understand where you all are coming from, is the me right now. And I truly feel stuck too. I love my family-my husband & my daughter-with all my heart. They are my life and I don't ever want to be without them. They can bring sunshine into even my bleakest days. But, I still. feel. stuck. and. life. is. so. incredibly. hard. right. now.
I have had migraines since I was 5 years old. But they were quite manageable. When I was in my very early 20's that all changed. I have had a "background" headache that never, ever goes away--it's there 24/7-since I was 21. On top of that, my migraines became chronic (daily) with pain severe enough to completely lay me out and accompanying symptoms severe enough to leave me chronically disabled--nope, haven't been able to hold a job since I was in my 20's. And it's not fun. The other symptoms quite accurately mimic strokes--can't speak correctly-or at all-, face sags, leg and arm won't work. It's bizarre. And I have to be really careful.
I end up spending a great deal of time unable to do much of anything. I love to read, but that is extremely difficult/impossible a lot of the time. TV gets old sooo quickly. It seems like every show has been done a thousand times before. (Though I do love Game of Thrones) I am unable do the thread crocheting or the mixed-media art that I love a lot of the time. I feel like a rotten mom. I always wanted to be the mom who did everything! Everyone always thought I would be that mom. But, I am not. I am the mom that's laying on the couch watching BIg Bang Theory and NCIS reruns for the umpteenth time because that's all I am physically capable of doing. I do spend a lot of time with my family-my daughter knows she is loved-but I can't go run around with her or embarrass her by chaperoning the school dance. I do create her school's yearbook every year (there are about 150 students) and she loves that I do that and I love doing it even though, for me, it is a MASSIVE and stressful (though satisfying when it's done) undertaking and every year I say I just can't do it again--but I always do.
And life seems long. And very lonely at times-especially recently. I mean how many hours can a person be stuck in bed or on a couch before they completely lose all their marbles. And it all has been made way worse lately because I have developed extremely severe and bizarre insomnia on top of it all. Right now I have not slept AT ALL for 3 1/2 days. And I probably won't sleep tonight. So far the longest I have gone is one week with no sleep. I'll "hit the wall" sleep for a couple of days and then the cycle starts all over again. And no one knows what to do about it! I'm just a tad frustrated.
Okay, sorry to anyone who may've actually read this--sorry whiny and rambly. I'm done & for some reason do feel a bit better. I just don't talk about it all much. I mean, it is certainly not the stuff of small talk and chatting.
I'm not embarrassed to say, though, that when my daughter found this site called Flight Rising and showed me what it was all about and kept bugging me to become a member, it ended up being a kind of godsend!! I've always loved dragons, and fairies, and fantasy stories, so this was right up my alley. Now we will sit next to each other and do our FR stuff together- and we have a lot of fun! She says I am way more into it than she is now. She's probably right--I have a lot of hours to fill and I am waaaayy down the "dragonhole'! It' s so cool, though. We even got her dad to create a lair. Of course, he names his dragons after kitchen appliances and diseases (he's a doctor and he loves to cook). What is even cooler, though, is that whatever treasure/gems he earns by doing puzzles and breeding dragons he generally splits between the two of us!!
SORRY THIS IS SOOO LONG, but after actually typing it I can't bring myself to delete the last half.
You know, I never thought I'd be saying any of this on FR, but here goes.
First, I can't hear somebody in pain and not stop to say something. If you need to vent, then do it. Here is just fine.
College can be a very difficult prospect--so many choices, and if nothing grabs your interest and holds it, what do you do? You know, I changed my major at least 6 times before I finally found what I wanted to do. And sometimes the jobs you have to work until you find what you want to do can be absolutely mind-numbing. I remember waking up some days thinking that if I had to do this job (whatever job-simply-for-money that was) for the rest of my life-and life can seem horrifyingly long at those times- I would go absolutely insane!!
That will get better later! And what was said before about therapy is true--there is NO shame in it, and can, quite literally, be a lifesaver! Hey, I've been in therapy for 15+ years and I don't know what I would've done without my therapist.
If not a therapist, do talk to someone, though. Keeping things bottled up is never good--they will blow, and when it happens it can be absolutely devastating! Talk to family and/or friends. If you can't do that, or don't want to, there appear to be several people right here who care & are more than willing to listen & try to help, if possible--me included!
I'll say right now-I have no specific answers and there really are none. It will take time to get past this. To find some things that spark your interest--grab your attention and hold it--make you happy to get up in the morning so you can do more of those things, whatever they may be. Finding them can be a process of trial-and- error. Start with some small things--you'd be amazed at how one small, seemingly insignificant thing , can potentially change your life! You're on FR--do the dragons capture your attention? Do you have with this site? Yes--then grab onto that and hold on. That's your first small baby step. Then another day-probably when you least suspect it-you'll find something else-whether by accident, or because you decided to try-I don't know-creating a mixed-media mosaic (yeah, that's a real thing and it's fun) because some crazy person mentioned it and you thought, "What the heck--I have nothing else to do right now."
Anyway, it won't happen overnight, but one day-if you try for some small, baby steps while staring in the face of the rest of your life-I promise you-one day you will feel better. And, you don't need to live up to anyone else's expectations except your own--it is your life.
Now, I didn't think I would do this either, but here goes. I need to vent and no one even has to read it--I'm hoping it will just make me feel better somehow.
I had some of these same issues when I was younger, but the part of me that can understand where you all are coming from, is the me right now. And I truly feel stuck too. I love my family-my husband & my daughter-with all my heart. They are my life and I don't ever want to be without them. They can bring sunshine into even my bleakest days. But, I still. feel. stuck. and. life. is. so. incredibly. hard. right. now.
I have had migraines since I was 5 years old. But they were quite manageable. When I was in my very early 20's that all changed. I have had a "background" headache that never, ever goes away--it's there 24/7-since I was 21. On top of that, my migraines became chronic (daily) with pain severe enough to completely lay me out and accompanying symptoms severe enough to leave me chronically disabled--nope, haven't been able to hold a job since I was in my 20's. And it's not fun. The other symptoms quite accurately mimic strokes--can't speak correctly-or at all-, face sags, leg and arm won't work. It's bizarre. And I have to be really careful.
I end up spending a great deal of time unable to do much of anything. I love to read, but that is extremely difficult/impossible a lot of the time. TV gets old sooo quickly. It seems like every show has been done a thousand times before. (Though I do love Game of Thrones) I am unable do the thread crocheting or the mixed-media art that I love a lot of the time. I feel like a rotten mom. I always wanted to be the mom who did everything! Everyone always thought I would be that mom. But, I am not. I am the mom that's laying on the couch watching BIg Bang Theory and NCIS reruns for the umpteenth time because that's all I am physically capable of doing. I do spend a lot of time with my family-my daughter knows she is loved-but I can't go run around with her or embarrass her by chaperoning the school dance. I do create her school's yearbook every year (there are about 150 students) and she loves that I do that and I love doing it even though, for me, it is a MASSIVE and stressful (though satisfying when it's done) undertaking and every year I say I just can't do it again--but I always do.
And life seems long. And very lonely at times-especially recently. I mean how many hours can a person be stuck in bed or on a couch before they completely lose all their marbles. And it all has been made way worse lately because I have developed extremely severe and bizarre insomnia on top of it all. Right now I have not slept AT ALL for 3 1/2 days. And I probably won't sleep tonight. So far the longest I have gone is one week with no sleep. I'll "hit the wall" sleep for a couple of days and then the cycle starts all over again. And no one knows what to do about it! I'm just a tad frustrated.
Okay, sorry to anyone who may've actually read this--sorry whiny and rambly. I'm done & for some reason do feel a bit better. I just don't talk about it all much. I mean, it is certainly not the stuff of small talk and chatting.
I'm not embarrassed to say, though, that when my daughter found this site called Flight Rising and showed me what it was all about and kept bugging me to become a member, it ended up being a kind of godsend!! I've always loved dragons, and fairies, and fantasy stories, so this was right up my alley. Now we will sit next to each other and do our FR stuff together- and we have a lot of fun! She says I am way more into it than she is now. She's probably right--I have a lot of hours to fill and I am waaaayy down the "dragonhole'! It' s so cool, though. We even got her dad to create a lair. Of course, he names his dragons after kitchen appliances and diseases (he's a doctor and he loves to cook). What is even cooler, though, is that whatever treasure/gems he earns by doing puzzles and breeding dragons he generally splits between the two of us!!
SORRY THIS IS SOOO LONG, but after actually typing it I can't bring myself to delete the last half.
Wowee other people are like this. i actually think about this almost every day. I'm going to graduate high school in a year and a half and I have no idea what I want to do.
(It's really hard to type this already. I don't say much about this to anyone.)
I hate when people have a passion. a lot of my friends, when I ask them what they're going to do after high school, have weirdly specific answers, like "radiologist" or "anesthesiologist" or whatever. And when they ask me back, it's like "idk".
In middle school I was involved in clubs, and I really thought I would pursue a STEM career or even an art career, but now I think I'd really settle for a 9 - 5 office job and just be a random joe.
But I think that pretty much everybody who's smarter than others or who has been told that they are gifted & talented feels this way. Because you end up being average when you were once at the top of the world. All of your confidence gets eaten up by the time you are twelve and then you have nothing.
I know that I'm still smart, I know that I'm still talented and I can drew well, but I don't feel it. Or worse, I don't care.
TBH I think getting off the internet would help me a lot. nothing's worse than being up at 1 am clicking between social networking sites and hoping for updates lol.
I try to be chipper and I am but school and work and everything kinda feels draining. But imo I have to try to not think about it and that will make it not exist, because I feel like i should have complete control over how I feel and act and think.
Have a good day, everyone!
Wowee other people are like this. i actually think about this almost every day. I'm going to graduate high school in a year and a half and I have no idea what I want to do.
(It's really hard to type this already. I don't say much about this to anyone.)
I hate when people have a passion. a lot of my friends, when I ask them what they're going to do after high school, have weirdly specific answers, like "radiologist" or "anesthesiologist" or whatever. And when they ask me back, it's like "idk".
In middle school I was involved in clubs, and I really thought I would pursue a STEM career or even an art career, but now I think I'd really settle for a 9 - 5 office job and just be a random joe.
But I think that pretty much everybody who's smarter than others or who has been told that they are gifted & talented feels this way. Because you end up being average when you were once at the top of the world. All of your confidence gets eaten up by the time you are twelve and then you have nothing.
I know that I'm still smart, I know that I'm still talented and I can drew well, but I don't feel it. Or worse, I don't care.
TBH I think getting off the internet would help me a lot. nothing's worse than being up at 1 am clicking between social networking sites and hoping for updates lol.
I try to be chipper and I am but school and work and everything kinda feels draining. But imo I have to try to not think about it and that will make it not exist, because I feel like i should have complete control over how I feel and act and think.
Have a good day, everyone!
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Krankheit There's a bunch of great answers in this thread! I just wanted to add my two cents.
I'm in college. Last year's spring semester felt like every day I had to kick and cry my way through the day while keeping an acceptably social veneer over the heightening wave of panic and anger. Nearly everything about my classes and homework was unbearable, and it shook my determination to go to school to the core. I needed it to stop. However, I really didn't have a plan if it wasn't going to involve having a degree.
This is the biggest stock answer ever, but finding something to break the monotony is going to be the best thing. For me, I either need social time (I'm a huge extrovert) or a finished project to feel "satisfied". I do a lot of crafts, anything that catches my eye. (Sewing, needle felting, embroidery, papercraft, make up, I used to work with electronics too, and am looking into woodworking but its a bit unattainable at the moment). Nothing that's going to take months or weeks to finish, just here and there whatever. There are lots of little things to learn that aren't artsy too, maybe lock picking or circuit building or rock collecting or herb gardening or bird watching. Like CadetteAlright said, getting something alive that needs you might really lift your mood. Even just a cactus needs love.
It's okay to drop a project if you feel like it's not satisfying you or isn't worth the trouble anymore.
If there's a shelter around, I'm sure the old ladies that run the desks or feed the cats would love somebody who can walk the dogs, who will always be happy to see someone with a leash. Dog walking is an art form in itself, plus you get to meet people you won't know otherwise and just get to walk around with a cute dog. Volunteer at a museum or arboretum, or just go walking around in a nearby park. Go to a new restaurant or cook a new dish.
If you are thinking these won't help (since they may not) do consider therapy if you feel like you need it. If you are religious, there might be a young adults' group you can join at your place of worship. Confide in a friend or parent, if you think you can.
I don't know your situation, so I can't tell you if dropping out or taking a break or continuing to trudge on is going to be a good idea. I suppose you might want to analyze what's moving you forward in all this. Like, do your parents expect you to go to college? Do you expect you to go to college? Something else maybe? What don't you like about it exactly? The coursework or the professors? The subject matter you're studying? These questions are going to be really hard if you haven't thought about this already, but its important to be honest with yourself about it.
It's okay to drop out of uni, and it's okay not to know what you want in life.
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Krankheit There's a bunch of great answers in this thread! I just wanted to add my two cents.
I'm in college. Last year's spring semester felt like every day I had to kick and cry my way through the day while keeping an acceptably social veneer over the heightening wave of panic and anger. Nearly everything about my classes and homework was unbearable, and it shook my determination to go to school to the core. I needed it to stop. However, I really didn't have a plan if it wasn't going to involve having a degree.
This is the biggest stock answer ever, but finding something to break the monotony is going to be the best thing. For me, I either need social time (I'm a huge extrovert) or a finished project to feel "satisfied". I do a lot of crafts, anything that catches my eye. (Sewing, needle felting, embroidery, papercraft, make up, I used to work with electronics too, and am looking into woodworking but its a bit unattainable at the moment). Nothing that's going to take months or weeks to finish, just here and there whatever. There are lots of little things to learn that aren't artsy too, maybe lock picking or circuit building or rock collecting or herb gardening or bird watching. Like CadetteAlright said, getting something alive that needs you might really lift your mood. Even just a cactus needs love.
It's okay to drop a project if you feel like it's not satisfying you or isn't worth the trouble anymore.
If there's a shelter around, I'm sure the old ladies that run the desks or feed the cats would love somebody who can walk the dogs, who will always be happy to see someone with a leash. Dog walking is an art form in itself, plus you get to meet people you won't know otherwise and just get to walk around with a cute dog. Volunteer at a museum or arboretum, or just go walking around in a nearby park. Go to a new restaurant or cook a new dish.
If you are thinking these won't help (since they may not) do consider therapy if you feel like you need it. If you are religious, there might be a young adults' group you can join at your place of worship. Confide in a friend or parent, if you think you can.
I don't know your situation, so I can't tell you if dropping out or taking a break or continuing to trudge on is going to be a good idea. I suppose you might want to analyze what's moving you forward in all this. Like, do your parents expect you to go to college? Do you expect you to go to college? Something else maybe? What don't you like about it exactly? The coursework or the professors? The subject matter you're studying? These questions are going to be really hard if you haven't thought about this already, but its important to be honest with yourself about it.
It's okay to drop out of uni, and it's okay not to know what you want in life.
oh gosh I didn't see that so many had responded ;_; I'm going to read through it all now, but thanks so much for the comments and everything. I'll make a more detailed post in a few minutes.
oh gosh I didn't see that so many had responded ;_; I'm going to read through it all now, but thanks so much for the comments and everything. I'll make a more detailed post in a few minutes.
Thanks once again for everything everyone. I feel so much better now that some time has passed and after reading all of your ideas and stories. Sorry if my responses seem short, I'm really grateful and I just wanted to address everyone in turn. I am looking into therapy and I will be spending more time with my dog (we already sit around together a lot but I'll play with him more).
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Spikke I talked to my mom and she's going to look into a therapist for me. I hope that things start trending upwards for you as well, because in five years, everything should hopefully be getting better. Just posting my initial venting thing on the forum was really refreshing: if i had said anything like that to anyone I know they would've thought i needed serious help (which in all likelihood I probably do).
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MythGriffin24 ironically i do knit as a pastime ;_; i think getting out of the house would help alot. I'll do that more, thanks.
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Keyaroscuro Your story made me feel so much better. My mom wants me to become a judge but I definitely don't. who knows, i'll find my way eventually. thank you for the story and kind words :)
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CadetteAlright Reading your ideas made me feel a lot better. i have a dog, so I'll mess with him more. But especially the goals part: it made a lot of sense to me. Most people that give advice focus heavily on just setting goals and striving to achieve them; it's nice to know some people don't think exactly that way.
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LilacRain To know that you did have to make so many switches does make me feel better. my mother is looking into a therapist for me, and that seems like the best way to go at the moment. I will take things slow and try to find something that suits me and makes things better. it was nice to read that it's not going to happen overnight (and i can infer that it's not going to be a sudden glorifying experience that strikes me while I'm sitting around on the computer).
Also, thank you for sharing your story. I did read it because you were kind enough to read mine as well. I'm glad you've also found solace in flightrising (which is what I have as well) and i find that venting and/or just passing time on the forums is really comforting. I hope everything gets better. If you need to vent again (or want someone to talk to) the forum (and I) am here :)
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partpickle It seems we're in the same boat. I also have a year and a half till graduation, and at my school, everyone's got everything planned out and they seem so ready to move on, but they're also just fine in the moment, and I can't help but to hope that someday soon I'll feel the same way. I kind of just vented again sorry. I think the other advice in this thread can pertain to your situation as well: maybe draw a few things and post them on the social media sites, if you ever want to. I hope you feel better, and thank you for sharing.
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ghostmorning first off, thanks so much for pinging me because otherwise I would've missed all of the encouraging words and that would've sucked. I am looking into a therapist and I do have a dog, but sometimes he also seems like a burden (but in the end he's adorable and I love him).
Sorry i just answered most of the questions after this point (sorry if they were rhetorical and just for me to reflect on, but i'll leave them here). My parent's are really supportive: when my mom realized how I felt she expressed that if college wasn't for me it would be okay not to go. Mainly I think my school puts a lot of pressure on me. Most of the students who go to my school are really well-off and will continue to be, and they have everything planned out, and being in class with them while they seem so good at everything makes me seem to pale in comparison.
Thanks once again for everything everyone. I feel so much better now that some time has passed and after reading all of your ideas and stories. Sorry if my responses seem short, I'm really grateful and I just wanted to address everyone in turn. I am looking into therapy and I will be spending more time with my dog (we already sit around together a lot but I'll play with him more).
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Spikke I talked to my mom and she's going to look into a therapist for me. I hope that things start trending upwards for you as well, because in five years, everything should hopefully be getting better. Just posting my initial venting thing on the forum was really refreshing: if i had said anything like that to anyone I know they would've thought i needed serious help (which in all likelihood I probably do).
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MythGriffin24 ironically i do knit as a pastime ;_; i think getting out of the house would help alot. I'll do that more, thanks.
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Keyaroscuro Your story made me feel so much better. My mom wants me to become a judge but I definitely don't. who knows, i'll find my way eventually. thank you for the story and kind words :)
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CadetteAlright Reading your ideas made me feel a lot better. i have a dog, so I'll mess with him more. But especially the goals part: it made a lot of sense to me. Most people that give advice focus heavily on just setting goals and striving to achieve them; it's nice to know some people don't think exactly that way.
@
LilacRain To know that you did have to make so many switches does make me feel better. my mother is looking into a therapist for me, and that seems like the best way to go at the moment. I will take things slow and try to find something that suits me and makes things better. it was nice to read that it's not going to happen overnight (and i can infer that it's not going to be a sudden glorifying experience that strikes me while I'm sitting around on the computer).
Also, thank you for sharing your story. I did read it because you were kind enough to read mine as well. I'm glad you've also found solace in flightrising (which is what I have as well) and i find that venting and/or just passing time on the forums is really comforting. I hope everything gets better. If you need to vent again (or want someone to talk to) the forum (and I) am here :)
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partpickle It seems we're in the same boat. I also have a year and a half till graduation, and at my school, everyone's got everything planned out and they seem so ready to move on, but they're also just fine in the moment, and I can't help but to hope that someday soon I'll feel the same way. I kind of just vented again sorry. I think the other advice in this thread can pertain to your situation as well: maybe draw a few things and post them on the social media sites, if you ever want to. I hope you feel better, and thank you for sharing.
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ghostmorning first off, thanks so much for pinging me because otherwise I would've missed all of the encouraging words and that would've sucked. I am looking into a therapist and I do have a dog, but sometimes he also seems like a burden (but in the end he's adorable and I love him).
Sorry i just answered most of the questions after this point (sorry if they were rhetorical and just for me to reflect on, but i'll leave them here). My parent's are really supportive: when my mom realized how I felt she expressed that if college wasn't for me it would be okay not to go. Mainly I think my school puts a lot of pressure on me. Most of the students who go to my school are really well-off and will continue to be, and they have everything planned out, and being in class with them while they seem so good at everything makes me seem to pale in comparison.
