So my friend's family is moving about four hours away so that her father can do this live-in thing in order to start a new church. Unfortunately, its our senior year.
Now, this in itself wouldn't be too bad if she wasnt so involved in stuff at our school (like marching band, winter guard, and choir). Even then, its not that bad. What makes it so bad, however, is that literally everything worth looking forward to is happening next year: our marching band competes in a state competition, we're traveling to Ohio to compete in Winter Guard Internationals (our director had said that we were the first group in over fifteen years that he would have even considered taking, much less deciding, and guard is also practically her life), she made the highest choir at our school, and a big group of our friends were planning on going to prom together.
We're trying to convince her parents into letting her live at our house for the school year, and my parents adore her so its clear with them. She'll be getting her permit over the summer too, so basically she wouldn't even be a bother to begin with. Her father is even willing to consider this, hear her side out and all, but her mother is acting like a child. She's been guilt-tripping my friend by saying stuff like "you're tearing this family apart!" and "our family stays together" and how she'll need so much help with the younger adopted siblings even though she's been taking care of them for three years now and there's two other older siblings at the house (8th and 10th grade). To make matters worse, she's now avoiding my friend's questions.
I'm really worried about my friend. She's super sweet and caring, but she's awkward and can be a pushover and I know she wouldn't be able to fit in at a new school for only a year. Yeah, she'd make some friends, but its a city school and for the last eight years she's gone to our really good school where bullying is kinda foreign, tbh. Like, none of us can stand each other, but there's only a handful of complete jerks. So I feel like she wouldn't make it very well and she can get depressed when stuff happens and we're not there to pull her back up because she just shoulders it all.
Is this a familiar situation to anybody? We need some advice on how to convince her parents, and if anyone can share some situations and pros and cons that would be great.
tl;dr: my friend's family is moving during the worst possible time, and we need some advice to convince her parents to let her stay with me.
Now, this in itself wouldn't be too bad if she wasnt so involved in stuff at our school (like marching band, winter guard, and choir). Even then, its not that bad. What makes it so bad, however, is that literally everything worth looking forward to is happening next year: our marching band competes in a state competition, we're traveling to Ohio to compete in Winter Guard Internationals (our director had said that we were the first group in over fifteen years that he would have even considered taking, much less deciding, and guard is also practically her life), she made the highest choir at our school, and a big group of our friends were planning on going to prom together.
We're trying to convince her parents into letting her live at our house for the school year, and my parents adore her so its clear with them. She'll be getting her permit over the summer too, so basically she wouldn't even be a bother to begin with. Her father is even willing to consider this, hear her side out and all, but her mother is acting like a child. She's been guilt-tripping my friend by saying stuff like "you're tearing this family apart!" and "our family stays together" and how she'll need so much help with the younger adopted siblings even though she's been taking care of them for three years now and there's two other older siblings at the house (8th and 10th grade). To make matters worse, she's now avoiding my friend's questions.
I'm really worried about my friend. She's super sweet and caring, but she's awkward and can be a pushover and I know she wouldn't be able to fit in at a new school for only a year. Yeah, she'd make some friends, but its a city school and for the last eight years she's gone to our really good school where bullying is kinda foreign, tbh. Like, none of us can stand each other, but there's only a handful of complete jerks. So I feel like she wouldn't make it very well and she can get depressed when stuff happens and we're not there to pull her back up because she just shoulders it all.
Is this a familiar situation to anybody? We need some advice on how to convince her parents, and if anyone can share some situations and pros and cons that would be great.
tl;dr: my friend's family is moving during the worst possible time, and we need some advice to convince her parents to let her stay with me.
