any advice on what to do because I've just been panicking and crying for the last hour.
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@LightsNest
Why would they ever do that? I'm so sorry! You can rant to me, From past experiences, ranting helped me.
Why would they ever do that? I'm so sorry! You can rant to me, From past experiences, ranting helped me.
@LightsNest
Why would they ever do that? I'm so sorry! You can rant to me, From past experiences, ranting helped me.
Why would they ever do that? I'm so sorry! You can rant to me, From past experiences, ranting helped me.
@Lightsnest What happened? You can also rant to me my inbox is always open not to step on ThefeatherMage's toes! We could even get a chat up and all rant together! Or both listen. I use this thing called chatzy.
But seriously if you ever wanna talk my ears...well eyes in this case are intentive.
I hope things get better for you.
But seriously if you ever wanna talk my ears...well eyes in this case are intentive.
I hope things get better for you.
@Lightsnest What happened? You can also rant to me my inbox is always open not to step on ThefeatherMage's toes! We could even get a chat up and all rant together! Or both listen. I use this thing called chatzy.
But seriously if you ever wanna talk my ears...well eyes in this case are intentive.
I hope things get better for you.
But seriously if you ever wanna talk my ears...well eyes in this case are intentive.
I hope things get better for you.
I'm really mentally ill and it's hard for me to pick up on hints. He only dropped hints instead of telling me things and got mad at me when I couldn't understand and it's the same thing that ALWAYS happens
I'm really mentally ill and it's hard for me to pick up on hints. He only dropped hints instead of telling me things and got mad at me when I couldn't understand and it's the same thing that ALWAYS happens
@Lightsnest Hey. Nice seeing you again, although the circumstances are grim. I'm sorry to hear that it all ended this way. You can send me a PM and talk about stuff if you want. I have some experience when it comes to being dumped lol. I think I could possibly help, or just offer an ear to listen to you.
@Lightsnest Hey. Nice seeing you again, although the circumstances are grim. I'm sorry to hear that it all ended this way. You can send me a PM and talk about stuff if you want. I have some experience when it comes to being dumped lol. I think I could possibly help, or just offer an ear to listen to you.
@Lightsnest
hmm... i''m not very well versed in this area (I am unskilled in social aspects of life), but I recommend getting in touch and hanging out with friends/family, you need an emotional rock/foundation to get you through this undoubtedly strife-filled time. It doesn't have to be family/friends, but maybe they can help you. You can also find something you love and pour yourself into it. I don't mean unreasonably, as in drinking or overdoing and not allowing yourself to take care of your body, but express what you are feeling right now in a productive and soul-cleansing way, catharsis if you will, whatever that means to you.
Also; I am not gonna go all "they don't deserve you, get over it," or something like that because your attachment to them is likely deep-seated and spurning them is only going to make one's malignant feelings turn on themselves for loving them in the first place. Definitely allow yourself time to grieve, as if that person has passed away, because they kinda have, in a way. Humans are unique creatures in that we can relieve our undo stress through crying. Remember; it is not a weakness that you are shedding tears, if anything just don't allow the loss to take control of your life and if you need to, make notes of positive things and hang them in your room or in your phone. Your aforementioned friends and family are there for you, and you will not be alone in this turbulent and uncertain time in your life.
hmm... i''m not very well versed in this area (I am unskilled in social aspects of life), but I recommend getting in touch and hanging out with friends/family, you need an emotional rock/foundation to get you through this undoubtedly strife-filled time. It doesn't have to be family/friends, but maybe they can help you. You can also find something you love and pour yourself into it. I don't mean unreasonably, as in drinking or overdoing and not allowing yourself to take care of your body, but express what you are feeling right now in a productive and soul-cleansing way, catharsis if you will, whatever that means to you.
Also; I am not gonna go all "they don't deserve you, get over it," or something like that because your attachment to them is likely deep-seated and spurning them is only going to make one's malignant feelings turn on themselves for loving them in the first place. Definitely allow yourself time to grieve, as if that person has passed away, because they kinda have, in a way. Humans are unique creatures in that we can relieve our undo stress through crying. Remember; it is not a weakness that you are shedding tears, if anything just don't allow the loss to take control of your life and if you need to, make notes of positive things and hang them in your room or in your phone. Your aforementioned friends and family are there for you, and you will not be alone in this turbulent and uncertain time in your life.
@Lightsnest
hmm... i''m not very well versed in this area (I am unskilled in social aspects of life), but I recommend getting in touch and hanging out with friends/family, you need an emotional rock/foundation to get you through this undoubtedly strife-filled time. It doesn't have to be family/friends, but maybe they can help you. You can also find something you love and pour yourself into it. I don't mean unreasonably, as in drinking or overdoing and not allowing yourself to take care of your body, but express what you are feeling right now in a productive and soul-cleansing way, catharsis if you will, whatever that means to you.
Also; I am not gonna go all "they don't deserve you, get over it," or something like that because your attachment to them is likely deep-seated and spurning them is only going to make one's malignant feelings turn on themselves for loving them in the first place. Definitely allow yourself time to grieve, as if that person has passed away, because they kinda have, in a way. Humans are unique creatures in that we can relieve our undo stress through crying. Remember; it is not a weakness that you are shedding tears, if anything just don't allow the loss to take control of your life and if you need to, make notes of positive things and hang them in your room or in your phone. Your aforementioned friends and family are there for you, and you will not be alone in this turbulent and uncertain time in your life.
hmm... i''m not very well versed in this area (I am unskilled in social aspects of life), but I recommend getting in touch and hanging out with friends/family, you need an emotional rock/foundation to get you through this undoubtedly strife-filled time. It doesn't have to be family/friends, but maybe they can help you. You can also find something you love and pour yourself into it. I don't mean unreasonably, as in drinking or overdoing and not allowing yourself to take care of your body, but express what you are feeling right now in a productive and soul-cleansing way, catharsis if you will, whatever that means to you.
Also; I am not gonna go all "they don't deserve you, get over it," or something like that because your attachment to them is likely deep-seated and spurning them is only going to make one's malignant feelings turn on themselves for loving them in the first place. Definitely allow yourself time to grieve, as if that person has passed away, because they kinda have, in a way. Humans are unique creatures in that we can relieve our undo stress through crying. Remember; it is not a weakness that you are shedding tears, if anything just don't allow the loss to take control of your life and if you need to, make notes of positive things and hang them in your room or in your phone. Your aforementioned friends and family are there for you, and you will not be alone in this turbulent and uncertain time in your life.
@Lightsnest
I'm so sorry this happened to you, when we talked last time you were so nice! I don't have much advice in that department, just hang in there and I'm always open to talk and for help with cheering up.
I'm so sorry this happened to you, when we talked last time you were so nice! I don't have much advice in that department, just hang in there and I'm always open to talk and for help with cheering up.
@Lightsnest
I'm so sorry this happened to you, when we talked last time you were so nice! I don't have much advice in that department, just hang in there and I'm always open to talk and for help with cheering up.
I'm so sorry this happened to you, when we talked last time you were so nice! I don't have much advice in that department, just hang in there and I'm always open to talk and for help with cheering up.
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@Lightsnest
Oh man, that sucks. That really, really sucks.
Unfortunately, I, like a few others here, am not well-versed in the social aspects of life, especially relationships (let alone engagement). But that's a hard change. Going from engaged to single is not a fun transition, I'd imagine. Only time can really take care of this one.
In any case, I'm really sorry this happened, and if you need someone to vent to, I'm here for you.
Oh man, that sucks. That really, really sucks.
Unfortunately, I, like a few others here, am not well-versed in the social aspects of life, especially relationships (let alone engagement). But that's a hard change. Going from engaged to single is not a fun transition, I'd imagine. Only time can really take care of this one.
In any case, I'm really sorry this happened, and if you need someone to vent to, I'm here for you.
@Lightsnest
Oh man, that sucks. That really, really sucks.
Unfortunately, I, like a few others here, am not well-versed in the social aspects of life, especially relationships (let alone engagement). But that's a hard change. Going from engaged to single is not a fun transition, I'd imagine. Only time can really take care of this one.
In any case, I'm really sorry this happened, and if you need someone to vent to, I'm here for you.
Oh man, that sucks. That really, really sucks.
Unfortunately, I, like a few others here, am not well-versed in the social aspects of life, especially relationships (let alone engagement). But that's a hard change. Going from engaged to single is not a fun transition, I'd imagine. Only time can really take care of this one.
In any case, I'm really sorry this happened, and if you need someone to vent to, I'm here for you.
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@Lightsnest
Hey, I know it hurts but it'll be okay! I promise. I had an ex-fiancé of my own who dumped me three weeks before the wedding to run off with my maid of honor. It took me a little while to bounce back, but it helped me so much more than I thought possible! It really becomes a blessing in disguise. I became more self aware and self confident, I also became self reliant mentally and emotionally. I won't lie, though, the first night was the worst, closely followed by the first week or two weeks. After that, it started to slowly look up. Your grieving process will vary from mine, though.
If you bought anything for the wedding, put it in a box for right now until you can handle dealing with it with a clear head. Email or call the vendors if you can and let them know what's happened and that you don't need their services. Some might offer refunds, some might not. Take it as it is, just roll with the punches. They stop coming eventually. I felt like I had curve balls coming at me constantly for a few weeks after it happened.
if you need anything, please feel more than welcome to PM me! I'm good at listening and I've been through what you have, at least on the base level of the situation.
Hey, I know it hurts but it'll be okay! I promise. I had an ex-fiancé of my own who dumped me three weeks before the wedding to run off with my maid of honor. It took me a little while to bounce back, but it helped me so much more than I thought possible! It really becomes a blessing in disguise. I became more self aware and self confident, I also became self reliant mentally and emotionally. I won't lie, though, the first night was the worst, closely followed by the first week or two weeks. After that, it started to slowly look up. Your grieving process will vary from mine, though.
If you bought anything for the wedding, put it in a box for right now until you can handle dealing with it with a clear head. Email or call the vendors if you can and let them know what's happened and that you don't need their services. Some might offer refunds, some might not. Take it as it is, just roll with the punches. They stop coming eventually. I felt like I had curve balls coming at me constantly for a few weeks after it happened.
if you need anything, please feel more than welcome to PM me! I'm good at listening and I've been through what you have, at least on the base level of the situation.
@Lightsnest
Hey, I know it hurts but it'll be okay! I promise. I had an ex-fiancé of my own who dumped me three weeks before the wedding to run off with my maid of honor. It took me a little while to bounce back, but it helped me so much more than I thought possible! It really becomes a blessing in disguise. I became more self aware and self confident, I also became self reliant mentally and emotionally. I won't lie, though, the first night was the worst, closely followed by the first week or two weeks. After that, it started to slowly look up. Your grieving process will vary from mine, though.
If you bought anything for the wedding, put it in a box for right now until you can handle dealing with it with a clear head. Email or call the vendors if you can and let them know what's happened and that you don't need their services. Some might offer refunds, some might not. Take it as it is, just roll with the punches. They stop coming eventually. I felt like I had curve balls coming at me constantly for a few weeks after it happened.
if you need anything, please feel more than welcome to PM me! I'm good at listening and I've been through what you have, at least on the base level of the situation.
Hey, I know it hurts but it'll be okay! I promise. I had an ex-fiancé of my own who dumped me three weeks before the wedding to run off with my maid of honor. It took me a little while to bounce back, but it helped me so much more than I thought possible! It really becomes a blessing in disguise. I became more self aware and self confident, I also became self reliant mentally and emotionally. I won't lie, though, the first night was the worst, closely followed by the first week or two weeks. After that, it started to slowly look up. Your grieving process will vary from mine, though.
If you bought anything for the wedding, put it in a box for right now until you can handle dealing with it with a clear head. Email or call the vendors if you can and let them know what's happened and that you don't need their services. Some might offer refunds, some might not. Take it as it is, just roll with the punches. They stop coming eventually. I felt like I had curve balls coming at me constantly for a few weeks after it happened.
if you need anything, please feel more than welcome to PM me! I'm good at listening and I've been through what you have, at least on the base level of the situation.
@Lightsnest
Yeah it's terrible, especially if you're mentally ill. One of the reasons why my ex cheated/dumped me was because I'm suffering from depression.
Best you can do is treat yourself.
Take care of yourself and do what you love to do.
I'm not much help aha. ;;
Yeah it's terrible, especially if you're mentally ill. One of the reasons why my ex cheated/dumped me was because I'm suffering from depression.
Best you can do is treat yourself.
Take care of yourself and do what you love to do.
I'm not much help aha. ;;
@Lightsnest
Yeah it's terrible, especially if you're mentally ill. One of the reasons why my ex cheated/dumped me was because I'm suffering from depression.
Best you can do is treat yourself.
Take care of yourself and do what you love to do.
I'm not much help aha. ;;
Yeah it's terrible, especially if you're mentally ill. One of the reasons why my ex cheated/dumped me was because I'm suffering from depression.
Best you can do is treat yourself.
Take care of yourself and do what you love to do.
I'm not much help aha. ;;
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